Week 16 in the Master Keys is about giving kindness, regardless if the other person knows you did it. I realized this week that I do acts of kindness without even realizing it sometimes. On the other hand, I had not been looking for kindness… not appreciating it.
I do little things to help my mom. She’s recovering from a respiratory infection that put her in the hospital before Christmas, so I am at her place frequently to see how she’s doing and help out. She’s much better; however, she still tires easily and is weak. So I’ll do those things like put the dishes in the dishwasher or unload it, do some laundry or fold some that’s been done, fix her something to eat… Just little things. Sometime she’s resting and she doesn’t see what I’ve done, but she noticed later and always appreciates it and shows her gratitude. So not only have I made her feel better, it makes me feel better!
I had a friend call me at 11:00pm at night this week. It’d been a long day for me and I was beat, yet I’m always there for my friends and they know I’m a night owl. My friend was having a very hard day, on top of having holidays without his mom and sister who passed close together in the last couple years and trying to enjoy holidays with out them. He was so upset, I offered to come over for a bit. Sometimes just being present and listening is all that’s needed. After a bit, we were laughing and enjoying the memories.
With society today, people seem to be in their own little world’s, not noticing things around them. We used to be a lot more observant and a lot more friendly towards each other. I decided I wanted to change some of that. One thing that I found very easy to do, is when you’re shopping, make eye contact with people, smile and say hello! Sometimes it even strikes up a conversation. It’s amazing how peoples faces just brighten up! I love it and I’m going to continue to do it!
I also mentioned that I was not recognizing kindness; I guess I was taking it for granted. Once I started being more kind, I started noticing more kindness.
One of my clients that comes right after work, heard through the grapevine I’m moving to another spa (I hadn’t told many people yet.) She text me to see if she was my last client for the day … I replied with she was literally my last client not only for the day, my last client at the old spa and I’d start packing after she left. She got excited and said to reschedule her to the soonest I could get her in the new spa.. this way I’d be able to start packing sooner and she’d be one of my first clients in the new spa. It helped me so much!
The day got better! I packed up everything from the spa I could and loaded it into the car. The temp with windshield was -2, so I was a fright to be seen. (All I have left are a few large items I need help with and I’m thankful people offered to help me move them!) I decided I needed a hot chocolate for my 30 min drive home… well, I packed it. So I decided to go through a drive-through, regardless how I looked, and get a hot chocolate to treat myself. I had my nails done the day before, and the girl at the window went on about how pretty and unique they were. She even went to go get another girl to come look at them. They both asked where I had them done. I thanked them both and gave them each a card of my friend who does my nails. It was a great ending of one adventure and great beginning of a new adventure!
I’ve learned to look for kindness in world we don’t think is so kind… Actually it’s more kinder than we think.